I'm going to a wedding in Chicago this afternoon -- my first-ever wedding-of-a-friend, in fact. But nevertheless it's good to learn that old fashioned cohabitation isn't problematic after all.
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29 Mar 2008 12:08 pm
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my first-ever wedding-of-a-friend, in fact
I feel really old all of a sudden.
First ever wedding-of-a-friend?
Dude, don't forget your diapers.
Interestingly enough, two weeks ago I went to my first ever funeral for a friend. He was 47.
Time marches on for all of us.
I guess at Hah-vahd nobody gets married a year or two after college.
Do you happen to be at a cafe in Evanston named after a mythological beast? an iTunes library share suggests its the case. If so, I'd love to say hello! shoot me an email or stop by the table in the front window
Yeah, I'm sitting here in the back corner.
Wow, now there's a plot point Law & Order: CI should steal-- the fugitive busted by his itunes library share.
Wow. (On the itunes library share positional detection system--look out for Dick Cheney!!!)
On the post, it's interesting that it's still not a predictor of more stable marriage--living together has no effect. I'd thought it was already down to neutral, so I think this is old news, but.....
John,
Actually I have quite a few friends (I went to college with Matt and Ross) who got married right when they graduated college. It's not uncommon...I can think of seven or eight couples I know right off the bat. Hell, my friend's parents got married when they were _at_ Harvard in the '70s.
Geez, I know people who married right out of high school. Of course, not a one of those couples lasted very long.
Otherwise the youngest, still-intact marriage I know of is a couple who married their last year in grad school. He was 25, she 26 and it's fifteen years and counting for them now.
Statistically, couples who marry at 20 are as likely to remain together as those who marry at 25, 45, whatever. It's only teen marriages that are more likely to divorce. (The Boston Globe covered this at Valentine's Day. It was a welcome intrusion of math into the "whatever I have chosen is the logical option and everyone else will have a midlife crisis and get divorced" debate.)
One of those institutions that study marriage found that a large portion of failed marriages came down to "what were these people thinking to get married?" They didn't have the same goals or expectations, weren't compatible, etc. But living together doesn't seem to weed these pairs out.
I don't go to friends weddings or funerals - mostly because I don't have any friends.
Wonder why?
OTOH, I don't have any enemies either - well, except for SLC and Robert Powell...
Christ, I have some lame enemies, too...
I need to get out more.
How does "library share" work?
I finished Harvard the same year as Douthat and one year prior to Mr. Yglesias. I would estimate that ~5-10% of our class is now married.
Btw I'm in Chicago too, but not in a cafe in Evanston! Too bad.
NBT,
haha, looks like you and I are classmates. Oddly enough I live only about a half day from Chicago these days. What house did you live in?
Re Richard Steven Hack
I can't, of course, speak for Mr. Powell, but let me assure Mr. Hack that I am not his enemy. I have nothing personnel against him, never having met him.
Well, I like to protect my anonymity (once I tell you my year of graduation, my house, and my current location, you would have an easy time identifying me!) so let's just say that I was not in the house of Ross (Quincy) or Yglesias (Kirkland).
I used to know Ross somewhat in college, but haven't talked to him since then.
Damn, I'm a Chicagoan who was so tempted to show up at Unicorn cafe, if only I'd seen that post just slightly earlier, I would have hero worshipped all over you, Matt...
Damn good milkshekes there.
Damn, I can't believe none of your friends have gotten married. I'm significantly younger (class of 2006), and also went to a small, selective private school where the women go into real careers...and I've been to at least five friend weddings (not including ones I missed because I was out of town) and have a few more on the calendar for this year. I figure it will be something along the lines of one-per-quarter for the next 5-10 years. Maybe part of it is that I live in the same city where I went to college, and the weddings tend to be here, too...
Amber,
I think it has to do with the circle you hang out with, in large part. Most of my friends are moderately religious Catholics or mainline Protestants, and they to tend to get married younger than my atheist/agnostic friends. Presumably Matt's crowd is more the secular, atheist/agnostic crowd that doesn't get married till later, if at all.
NBT,
haha yeah probably better not to share too much information. I was in Cabot, if that helps...i'm just wondering if we know each other in real life.
I didn't know a lot of Quadlings, so probably not. (There's another hint -- now you've narrowed my house down to 7 possibilities! Or 8 including Dudley...)
Most of my friends from Harvard undergrad went on to work for a couple years and then to grad school of some sort, so right about now they are finishing up that whole sequence and are getting ready to marry. (Including myself, possibly...)
Gee, SLC, that touched me...someplace...
Here's my response: Fuck you, Zionist freak.
This showed up in my RSS again just now, and I actually followed the link. Good news all around, but probably the best thing of all is that one of the studies was done by "Bumpass and Sweet". I swear!
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my first-ever wedding-of-a-friend, in fact
I feel really old all of a sudden.
Posted by Aaron | March 29, 2008 12:17 PM